I wanted a central place to post my thoughts on a few things. First would be that it is tough for me to keep track of everything that is going on. I have been absent to a point of detriment to the Boutique. Work, family and life has to come before the boutique. A balance of real life and fantasy needed to be found. At one point of my life, I was on computers all the time for school and it was very easy to be on the boutique at the same time. I lived a lot of my life in the fantasy. Time moved on and real life had to be higher on the list and I spent much less time on the boutique. The friends I made here started to do similar. Families came along and focusing on them were higher.
This and the need I once had to move the IRC chat to a more adult based server has lead to the withering away of the quality of the Boutique. The central idea for the boutique has been a much more female friendly place for the fetish. A place where the classic Male Dom/female sub didn’t need to be central. The move to an adult server wore on this greater. When we had a large team of mods that were willing to watch over, it wasn’t too tough to counter this. But the team has dropped to one main stay and a few irregulars and in that time the IRC channels have become a place for people to mostly idle or a place for people to be preyed upon by others from the server that thing it is ok to force the classic D/s. When I log in to just play, the amount of messages I get from crappy sources is just too great. And you know who is to blame for that? Myself. No one else. I haven’t put in the time to be able to watch it all and to craft people.
Chat on IRC vs Discord.
A few months back we started a Boutique Discord (https://discord.gg/Cra4XM7) to see how well that service could be for us. I wanted to see if the tools offered by the Discord server could help with our overall crafting of a community once again.
It has but we also haven’t had a huge influx of people, people that could be of the classic D/s mindset yet. It is nice that you can see the history of the channel without being logged in 24/7. It is nice to have so many rooms that can be tailored to certain desires. It is nice to have a user interface that is pretty. It is nice to be able to load in a bot or two that will let us have games without worrying if it will bother an admin somewhere somehow.
It is nice that we can tailor the feel of the community much easier. As it allows us to not have to be on 24/7 or sort through miles of text logs to understand what is going on.
The core of boutique users are on discord often. Everyone else is invited.
I feel horrible about failing. Failing the group, failing our community, and I feel horrible about failing the mods, including our mainstay Kitten.
But life is change. Things will need to move on. Discord is going to be where many of boutique founders are going to be playing. People are welcomed.
Now one last main thing, I need to express my sadness over my biggest failure in all of this. We have had two mainstays within the boutique for years and year now. Kitten and Pinky. They couldn’t be any more different from one another. Kitten is very little nonsense, very reality based, very real world with her outlooks on the fetish. Pinky is a whirlwind of fantasies and playfulness. I could never figure out how to make the two mesh with one another. Near literal fire and water we are talking.
Kitten has been a foundation for the IRC room for years. She is the one people should often thank for what is here. I thank Kitten for what she has done. And if you are reading this Kitten, you are welcomed on the discord too. I did invite you when it started but I got the feeling that you didn’t want the change or didn’t want to have to deal with Pinky there. I can understand both.
Ok, that is enough from my brain right now if I have anything else to say, I will edit this post below. I wanted to make sure to have a central place to share this so everyone can see what I have said and thought.
Thank you everyone.